Is this how it’s supposed to feel? Is everyone’s relationship like this? Am I being abused?
If you are unsure if your relationship is healthy, please look over the following questions, and think about how you are being treated, and how you feel.
Each question can be answered with either yes or no.
Does your partner...
_____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
_____ Call you names; either alone, or in front of others?
_____ Grab, push, burn, pinch, choke, slap, shove, punch, pull your hair, or cut you?
_____ Stop you from leaving by blocking doorways with their body?
_____ Threaten to kill themselves if you ever leave them?
_____ Call you a lot, or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
_____ Give you an allowance, or control all finances?
_____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for their actions?
_____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
_____ Prevent you from going to church or participating in spiritual activities?
_____ Restrict your access to the children?
_____ Pressure you for sex, or to engage in sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?
_____ Threaten to hurt your children?
_____ Threaten to hurt your pet?
_____Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
_____ Stop you from doing things you want - like spending time with friends or family?
_____ Try to force you into sexual situations with others (threesomes, orgies, etc.)?
_____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
_____ Make excuses for your partner's behavior?
_____ Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?
_____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what he/she would do if you left?
_____ Doubt your own judgment even in small decisions?
_____ Doubt your memory of the way things happened because of what he/she says?
_____ Feel increasingly trapped and powerless?
If you have said yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
Please note: There are many different kinds of abuse; some of which may not be listed here.
To speak with a Crisis Intervention Support Worker about your specific situation, please call:
(807) 223-3226 or 1-800-465-7221
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